Do people get over bad things that happen to them?

You can always move on from things that happen in the past, although they will always be part of your life. If this incident is affecting your life so much, I would look into changing your name. I really recommend talking to someone about your feelings, and I have always felt that the best place to go for free, unbiased and loving help is church. Whether your religious or not, most churches offer one-on-one counseling or group services that will assist you in moving on. Many communities offer various programs and services free of charge as well, but I have never personally been turned down from a much-needed hug and good conversation at any church that I have gone to. :)